MY HUSBAND WANTS HIS DAUGHTER TO INHERIT MY FAMILY NECKLACE INTENDED FOR MY DAUGHTER.

I’ve been married to my husband Joey for 2 years and we dated for 4 years. I have a daughter, Emily (13f), and Joey has a daughter, Sophia (14f). My family has a tradition of giving an emerald necklace that’s passed down from a mother to their eldest daughter or son on their 14th birthday. Recently Joey brought up the necklace. He said it would be nice for Sophia to receive the necklace since it would show her that I TRULY accepted Sophia as my daughter. I didn’t love this idea as Emily is waiting to receive it. It’s her birthday soon. Joey accused me of favoring Emily over Sophia, being selfish, and told me that I could get ANOTHER emerald necklace from Amazon for Emily. 😱 I told him that necklace was going to my daughter whether he liked it or not. Now he is giving me the silent treatment. How would you react to this?

Honestly? You’re absolutely right to stand your ground here. That necklace is not just a piece of jewelry — it’s a family heirloom tied to a tradition for YOUR bloodline. It’s meant for Emily, and Joey suggesting you could just “get another one from Amazon” shows he doesn’t understand (or is ignoring) the sentimental and generational value behind it.

A few things to unpack here:

1. Blending families is hard — but “accepting Sophia” should never mean erasing Emily’s rights to her own heritage. Sophia deserves love, support, and inclusion, but not at the expense of something that belongs to Emily.
2. Joey’s reaction is concerning — instead of having a calm discussion, he tried to guilt you, accused you of favoritism, and then stonewalled you with the silent treatment. That’s manipulative, not constructive.
3. There are other ways to include Sophia — You can still find a meaningful gesture for her, but it should be something you and Joey create together, not something taken away from Emily. Maybe start a new tradition for Sophia, or give her something that symbolizes the bond you’re building with her — but not your family’s necklace.

👉 My advice: Don’t budge on this. Emily should get the necklace as intended. But do try to sit Joey down and frame it like this: “This necklace is Emily’s birthright. But Sophia deserves her own tradition too. Why don’t we create something special for her together?”

That way, you protect your daughter while also showing you’re open to welcoming Sophia — just not by sacrificing your family’s legacy.

Would you like me to help you draft a firm but loving speech you can give Joey to shut down this argument while keeping the peace?